Positive and Negative Pheromones- What are You Going to Leave Behind?

I’ve been learning about positive and negative pheromones lately through my favorite teacher Dr. Wayne Dyer. These lessons resonated so deeply with me, arrived right in the midst of a powerfully uplifting pheromone experience, and allowed me to understand how they have impacted my life thus far.

Pheromones are particles of unseen energy that are emitted in moments of fear, and in its opposite, love. Well-documented studies have shown that when animals and humans, enter into a room or place where torture has taken place, they feel the painful and cruel energy that existed there. The fear that these pheromones leave behind impact the energy field so that it affects anyone who enters that space even years later.I understood what Dr Wayne Dyer was explaining here as I have been in many places where I have felt deeply the impact of these pheromones on the state of my well-being.

When traveling through Cambodia, a must-see on every traveler’s list is the Killing Fields. This is where at least 200,000 Cambodians were executed by the Khmer Rouge. Before going to the fields we visited the notorious ‘Security Prison 21.’ This was an old high school and it was the place many innocent people were taken to be interrogated and tortured.

Unimaginable pain and terror once existed within those walls and I felt it’s horror so intensely. Just thinking about it brings back the eerie and sickening feeling of that day. We left the torture chambers in deep shock, sickness and horror at how humans could treat one another. We decided we could not visit the Killing Fields and experience any more of what had happened there so many years ago. I just couldn’t experience the brutality of it anymore. All that we read and saw there could have been done through a book and we would never have felt what we did. After learning from Dr. Dyer this week, I now know that I felt so bad that day because of the cruel and painful energy field that was left behind by those tortured souls.

On the other end of the spectrum I have experienced the faster energy fields of love and happiness. We visited Biltmore Estate on the weekend, which is the largest house in America and home of the Vanderbilt Family, who were once the richest in the world. Positive, happy and loving energy fields radiated from the walls in there. You could just feel the joy of what once existed in that warm and welcoming home.

Leaving Biltmore Estate I was filled with a fuzzy warmth inside that signaled to me that a great time was had by anyone who was a guest of the Vanderbilt Family. I’d spent time in the opulence surroundings of the largest house in America, eaten a divine lunch in what was once the stables and finished the day with tastings of wine in the cellars. The pheromones of the place ignited my spirit and left me with thoughts of wealth and the pleasures that are so abundant in our world for us to share and experience. Within these walls once lived a family who loved each other deeply and shared this love and happiness with all who entered and spent time with them.

After learning about pheromones and my experiences today at Biltmore it became more apparent to me just why I am so addicted to and in love with travel. It is through the existence of these pheromones that I can experience life in the richness and fullness of it’s diversity. I can experience the pleasures and pain of so many lives that existed before my own.

I’ve visited places that are full of positive pheromones and I am so uplifted with joy and the power of the human spirit to create so much love. I live through the people that have come before me and I know what it’s like to explore and be the first to gaze upon incredible sights like Victoria Falls; build magnificent temples; play with intense joy or to triumph over adversity and love so deeply.

On the contrary, the pain that has existed in places before has been felt intensely by me upon visitation there also. These pulsing, negative pheromones have brought tears rolling down my cheeks and a sickness to my core. Through them I have felt the horrors of war, of torture, of sickness and poverty, or racial discrimination and hatred. Many times I’ve wanted to turn my back on humanity, stop the world and just get off.

But it is through experiencing each of these acutely (through these pheromones) and by being present in that pain that I have been able to understand what is important in life and from this develop my own personal code of ethics and belief. I know what I need to do to live my life so that I create a world that impacts by leaving only positive pheromones behind.

Do you? What are you choosing to leave behind each day?

Commit To Excellence

As a teacher, it's always important to have a list of rules and expectations for the children to follow in order to have a productive and successful classroom. Expectations are posted on the board under the heading 'Commit to Excellence.'

These expectations don't just apply to students in the classroom. If you commit to following these, you will be guaranteed success in any endeavour you choose to pursue. Not only that, but you will create in yourself an honest, responsible, and passionate person of high integrity.

Be Accountable and Responsible

Step up to the plate and take ownership of your life and actions. Do what needs to be done, when it needs to be done,without complaints. Be accountable for your actions and give up the blame game. Develop the ability to choose and respond to situations, don't react.

Be Prepared

Turn up with what you need to be successful. Do your homework, know what you need to get the task done. Be ready for whatever life might throw at you, anticipate the challenges that lie ahead and have a plan of action at the ready. You'll rarely be taken by surprise.

Honesty is the BEST Policy

It doesn't matter what has happened, if you are honest about it, we can work through it and deal with the matter. A lack of honesty always makes things so much worse. Nothing can be fixed nor changed without first being honest about the situation. You want people to have faith in you and to trust your word. You want to have faith in you also and if you lie, the man in the mirror is just not going to like who he sees staring back.

Always Do Your Best

Mediocre effort produces mediocre results. It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you play the game. And if you lose sometimes, but you've given it 110%, then you have won! Success is always yours when you give it your all.

Live with Passion

This is my favorite of the bunch, as it means to just let loose and enjoy life to the fullest in all of its delightful aspects. You will be rewarded with so much joy when you just live with excitement, even about the smallest things. Bound out of bed everyday; greet people with love, enthusiasm and excitement; feel your emotions with intensity; put your whole soul into all you do and try new things without restraint. Your energy will be contagious, people and success will just be drawn to you. Life rewards those who live it!

Are you ready to commit to excellence? It's very easy once you post these simple expectations on your wall. Follow them diligently and there is no outcome other than success and happiness.

Make YOUR Future Bigger than Your Past....

Driving in my car the other day I had an 'aha' moment and finally discovered the reason why my life took a serious nosedive for a couple of years. I could never work out what had gone wrong to make my life turn from near perfect to not so great.

I was utilizing my time by listening to empowering Personal Development CD's rather than crappy radio which only plays a constant stream of ads, DJ dribble and the same songs played over and over again. I'd rather use that time to develop me to make my life outstanding. I was listening to 'The Laws of Lifetime Growth' by Dan Sullivan and Catherine Nomura and what I heard made all the pieces of the puzzle click into place.

Dan says that to achieve lifetime growth and success you must make your future bigger than your past. A past is rich with experiences that provide raw material for an even bigger and brighter future. Your future is your property; it exists ONLY in your mind, therefore you can choose to make it whatever you like. A bigger future is a vision, an improvement of the qualities of your life now. You have to believe that a bigger future is possible. A bigger future is about what you choose to do with the time you have left.

I suddenly realized my problem and how to fix it. I had been making my past so much bigger than my future and how could I not. I had spent almost 10 years travelling the world. Craig and I spent the first 5 years of our marriage backpacking the globe. We trekked through many countries of Asia, Africa, the UK and America, as well as living in Dublin-Ireland, Bangkok-Thailand, Western Australia and Raleigh-North Carolina. Before that I had lived in London for two years and travelled through Europe.

We lived a total carefree existence. When we were travelling, our future adventures and experiences were always going to be bigger than our last adventure. Life was full of passion, fun and success. And then we decided to return to Australia to 'settle' and without realizing it, our future became very small. How could a life of working just to pay the bills possibly be bigger than our past? It wasn't, and we began to die inside, so we stopped growing and life became very small and meaningless.

I had thought that my fun-filled, adventurous life was over. I stopped believing and dreaming of a bigger future, I couldn't imagine there could be one (the power of a thought). That is the only thing that changed my life; I thought it into that mundane purpose-less existence.

So what do you do? How could I make my future bigger than my incredible past? Simple, think like this "If everything I've done so far is just the beginning, then what is next?"

Whoa!! What a mind shift. You mean that amazing travelling life I lived is just the beginning? Well doesn't that make for an incredible future in store for me! I am just bursting with excitement again. With that very simple shift in thinking, my future is now so so much bigger than my past. It's electrifying. My world is already having dramatic improvements and I am travelling and living life again.

Boy if this ....

...was just the beginning of my future - then My Goodness imagine what my future must now hold for me!! If I created this past before and now I know I can create an even bigger future, than wahoo let's get creating. I am so empowered to live a compeltely full life and all I can now say is

Who's coming with me????

Greeting the day with Awe and Gratitude

The greatest gift I have ever received is my daughter Kalyra. She is my greatest spiritual teacher and every day I feel so blessed to have been chosen to be her mother. It is an absolute joy and honor to be in her presence.

My favorite daily moment with her is picking her up when she awakens from her sleep. It is that moment every day when I fully appreciate the depth of her soul and come to an acute awareness that that depth lies within each of us. I believe children have a much better ability to allow it to surface naturally and freely which is why they are so enjoyable to be around. A baby has not yet been conditioned by the people around them or the conditions of their life. They are so loving, so appreciative, so excited by life and in awe of it.

Her first words on waking is a soft gentle calling of 'Mummy, Mummy'. When I walk into her room she greeets me with a huge smile and a wave 'Hi Mummy!' She welcomes me as the best thing she has ever seen and she's so glad that I'm there.

My most delightful daily experience occurs when she then proceeds to tell me every word she knows. She points to everything in her room: the lights, the butterfly mobile and sunflower she made, the pictures of her feet and hands, her bears and toys and she exclaims a 'Wow!' and then names it.

Her awe at life shines through and the joy at her own cleverness to already know so much. And in my heart I say 'Wow!' Another profound lesson from a not yet 2 year old. Imagine what our day would be like if we started it in the same manner as Kalyra. If you awoke with a wide smile and an exuberant wave; so happy to be awake and greeting the day, making those around you feel special and welcome. You then begin the day in wonder and gratitude for the amazing things big and small that surround you and then you admire and smile at the greatness that exists inside yourself.

Too often as adults we think we know everything. Being a mother is the most humbling experience as I realize as an adult I have become so out of touch with the reality of our essence and the true meaning of a life spent in awe of the miracle that it is......